Splinters: Allowing God to Heal and Restore

Splinters: Allowing God to Heal and Restore

Elizabeth P

Elizabeth P

I am a recovering Army brat who loves to travel and start new adventures. My handsome husband and I met at Oklahoma Christian University and he whisked me away to Kansas. So, I bought some ruby red high heels and made Topeka my home. I have a rough and rowdy Princess 4-year-old girl, amazing twin boys (almost 3) and a newborn baby girl who all make every day an adventure. We are grateful to be part of an amazing church in Topeka who regularly challenges and encourages our whole family. I have been both a full-time working mom and a stay-at-home-mom and/or both at the same time at one point or another. I am constantly seeking God’s wisdom on “balancing it all” and following His plan for my life, not mine.
Elizabeth P

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Last week my nearly three year old son had a splinter in the bottom of his foot. I told him to wear shoes outside on our wooden playset, but he chose to disobey and took them off before climbing the ladder. Lo and behold, he got a huge splinter. And it hurt him a lot.

My husband was working late that evening so it was just me versus the splinter. BIG SIGH.

I tried a few different tactics with my little boy trying to gain access to the bottom of his foot with my needle-nose tweezers, but he screamed and wiggled before I even touched him. I found myself contemplating sitting on him to keep him still. Seriously.

Finally, I grabbed him up in my arms and held him tight. I told him I needed him to relax and calm down and focus on the movie I turned on so I could help his foot feel so much better. He looked at me with tear-filled eyes and cried, “But mommy, no! I love the splinter.”

Suddenly, it struck me how similarly we act when we have a “splinter”–something harmful we hold on to when God is trying to make us new. But we can’t seem to let it go.

Whether it’s a particular sin we are struggling with, something we aren’t trusting the Lord with in our lives, a pain we are holding on to, or lack of obedience in our lives–how many times have you held on to your “splinter” and said you loved it instead of letting Christ heal your heart?

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Psalm 31:19 says:

How abundant are the good things
    that you have stored up for those who fear you,
that you bestow in the sight of all,
    on those who take refuge in you.

It also reminded me of C.S. Lewis’ The Great Divorce when he describes the man with the Red Lizard.  I found a partial transcript in Christianity Today if you want to read a longer segment, but pick up the whole book if you haven’t already. In this story, a man has a lizard on his shoulder which represents sin in his life. It’s a startling allegory about what separates us from God.

A mighty angel approached the man and asked, “Would you like me to make the lizard quiet?”

“Of course I would,” said the Ghost.

“Then I will kill him,” said the Angel, taking a step forward.

“Oh—ah—look out! You’re burning me. Keep away!” said the Ghost, retreating.

“Don’t you want him killed?”

“You didn’t say anything about killing him at first. I hardly meant to bother you with anything so drastic as that.”

“It’s the only way,” said the Angel…. “Shall I kill it?”

“Look! It’s gone to sleep of its own accord. I’m sure it’ll be all right now. Thanks ever so much.”

After much discussion and indecision, the man finally allows the Angel to kill the lizard. As the lizard dies, it transforms into a dazzling white stallion.

The man, now free from his torment, climbed upon the stallion that had been his sin and rode into the glowing sunrise toward the Savior.

That is available to all of us. We can be free from our torment. Free from the sin in our lives.

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Galatians 5:1 assures us, “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” {sin}

Walking around life with “splinters” in our feet is slavery. What pain, what agony, what self-inflicted misery we can wallow in if we don’t seek the forgiveness, restoration, and loving healing of Jesus Christ.

Why is our old nature so hard to let go of sometimes? We think it will hurt, and it might a little…but life will be so much better afterward.

Do you have a “splinter” in your life that you need to surrender to God? Have you experienced the forgiveness and healing of Christ? Did you know that even though it seems incredibly hard to be refined by God through repentance and obedience and trust in the Lord, that He loves you and wants to see you restored, healed, and following Him?

“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.  For what the law was powerless to do because it was weakened by the flesh, God did by sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh to be a sin offering. And so he condemned sin in the flesh, in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fully met in us, who do not live according to the flesh but according to the Spirit.”

Romans 8:1-4

 

The Dark Day and the Emerging Light: The Day I Found out about My Husband’s Porn Addiction

The Dark Day and the Emerging Light: The Day I Found out about My Husband’s Porn Addiction

We stood there on opposite sides of the garage staring each other down. Letting the question hang there. Knowing the next few words from his mouth could–no, would–change everything.

In that moment, I doubted why I had asked. He hadn’t given me reason to question him. Yet after conversations with two friends struggling through their own answers to this question, I felt like I had to ask.

I had fasted, and I had prayed.

I thought I was ready for whatever his answer would be.

After all, I loved and respected this man. For better or for worse, I had promised to love this man.

As the words came, I crumbled. I was a mess of a woman on that cold concrete floor. I wasn’t ready for this.

“I mean, if I can’t handle it, I’ll tell you,” he said. Then I knew–he hadn’t been faithful to me.

Some will say, “It’s just with his eyes.” To me it was everything. No one had ever hurt me so deeply. No one had ever betrayed me to that level. I had never let anyone in that close before him. It was out of nowhere. I was lost and broken, gasping for air.

He knew how much I hated pornography. My heart ached for sex-trafficked victims, and he knew that. He knew the broken woman I once was and how close I had been to becoming one of those women myself.

He had hurt me, yes, but he also made me sick.

This man was the father to my children. This man who had studied the Bible with me, who had prayed with me, who had loved me was, all the while, sinning against me and our vows. He had lusted after other women. He had done this in our home, on his phone, and on our television.

I hated him.

Now, I hated all of those things. Looking at them reminded me of his betrayal. He came to me, crumpled on the garage floor.

I cringed at his touch.

We sat there for what felt like forever.

Finally I asked, “Where do we go from here?”

Equipped through God’s Grace

That night, neither of us had any idea what the next two years would look like. By his grace, God equipped me to love my husband through this dark time in our marriage. God’s grace has given him strength to fight the desire of his flesh, seek accountability, and submit himself to boundaries that are at times frustrating.

We have both learned a lot in the past two years. I’ve learned a lot about grace, God, and walking in this gift of marriage.

Lessons Learned

Here are a few of my take-aways from this dark and painful time. I hope these lessons I’ve learned will bless any other woman walking through a similar battlefield.

1) Be in the Word.

When all this happened, I was just finishing Beth Moore’s study on James. I know without a doubt that had I not been deep in the Word of God for weeks leading up to this, my faith would have faltered even more.

I had memorized more scripture than I ever had before. Without it I was lost.

I’m not saying I never doubted God’s plan. I’m not saying I never questioned the purpose of this life we are living together.  I am saying knowing and relying on scripture is one of the few things that helped me get out of bed every morning.

These verses in particular, which I had memorized weeks before, anchored my storm-tossed mind and soul.

Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 

 

James 1:2-4

Most days I did not find this trial to be pure joy, but God’s Word encouraged me to see the joy in the situation.

Another verse, which I often pray I will be able to say before the Lord one day, came back to me over and over.  

I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race. I have kept the faith. 

 

2 Timothy 4:7

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2) God is faithful.

I doubted He was there with me. I doubted where He had been as my husband walked down this road to destruction.

But He was there.

He was there, grieving with us. He was there, prompting my husband to walk away from the computer. On the days, weeks, and months that my husband did not betray me, God was there, giving him strength.

Again, the words of James were aptly timed for just this moment in my life. These words helped me to reconcile our sinful temptations with the Lord who walks with us by His Holy Spirit.

When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, not does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full grown, gives birth to death.

 

James 1:13-15

3) This wasn’t about me.

Let me say it again: this isn’t about me!

It hurt me, it broke me, it made me grow. It made me stronger, but in the end, it was about my husband, his experiences, and his personal struggle with sin. 

This was the most difficult lesson. One I still have to be reminded of regularly. This was my opportunity to be gracious, to be an example of mercy to my husband.

Speak and act as those who are going to be judged by the law that gives freedom, because judgment without mercy will be shown to anyone who has not been merciful.

 

James 2:12-13

Mercy triumphs over judgement! That brings me to my next lesson.

4) I can’t do this alone.

Jesus Christ didn’t come to earth and disciple one man. He discipled many, and established a church. We need the church in our brokenness. I’m not saying go out and shout your husband’s sin from the pulpit. I am saying wisely and prayerfully seek out one or two women to encourage you during this season. You will be amazed at the women God brings to you. These women will love you when you hurt and encourage you to be Christ-like when you don’t want to be Christ-like anymore. Women who will pray with you, cry with you, check in on you, and just be with you.

Is any of you in trouble? He should pray. Is anyone happy? Let him sing songs of praise…and the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise him up. If he has sinned, he will be forgiven. Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.

 

James 5:13, 15-16

5) Lastly, and most importantly, Jesus Christ is my Lord and Savior, not my husband. 

I had him on a pedestal. His desire, love, and admiration fueled me. After almost ten years of marriage, I had forgotten that my value and purpose is from the Lord. None of us are perfect–not my husband, and definitely not me.

For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is guilty of breaking it all.

 

James 2:10

My husband can’t save me and I can’t save him. Jesus Christ took care of that almost 2,000 years ago.

There are still days I fight to control the images and thoughts in my mind. There are days I just want to cry in my best friend’s arms, and I hate that the one who comforts me is also the one who hurt me.

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Satan Seeks to Destroy Marriages

Sin is gross. It hurts. Sin is dark.

Sexual sin destroys trust beyond comprehension.

Satan is prowling like a lion seeking to devour each and every one of our marriages. He is seeking to destroy the most intimate and grace-filled institution that represents Christ’s love for us. 

Be on guard. Stay in the Word. Devote yourself to prayer. And…

…put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

 

Ephesians 6:13 (emphasis added)

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For Richer or Poorer: Holding On During Financial Hardships

For Richer or Poorer: Holding On During Financial Hardships

Kristi F

I am an Oklahoman by birth, a Texan by current living situation, but claim the world as my playground.I love to travel and hope to someday soon take our family on adventures to far off lands, where we can share God with others and experience all the wonders He has created.

I am a mother of 4 crazy, homeschooling children ages 9 & under, wife to an amazing man, and daughter of the King of the Universe!I enjoy reading, making my kids laugh, cooking, all things natural, learning to play guitar and dusting off my piano skills.One day I hope to run again, but until then I’m learning patience.

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“For Richer or Poorer”

Do we really mean this when we say our marriage vows? Or do we think we are in the poorest stage we are ever going to be and surely it will get better?

Are we even willing to say “for poorer” nowadays or do we just want “richer”?  A friend wrote a blog post not too long ago about attending a wedding where the bride would not say, “For poorer,” during the wedding ceremony and it really got me thinking about my own choices.

I remember when I first realized I loved my now husband.  We were separated by an ocean and I remember missing his laugh, which annoyed me.  I didn’t want to miss it because it forced me to work through other issues before I could admit my love.  The main thing I had to work through was my selfishness.

You see, I was a recent graduate, and thankfully, due to scholarships, parental help, and working, I was able to graduate debt free.  I had saved up enough money to live overseas and had some extra in case of an emergency. However, the guy I was “not” dating (even though God kept throwing him into my life) had quite a bit of money invested.  For me as a new college grad, it was a substantial amount.

Do I love him for who he is or his money?

I wanted to know that I loved him for him and not for his money, so I prayed about it and asked God for clarity.

The answer to my prayer came a few weeks later when he called with the sad news that the stock market had tanked and so had his stocks.  And that’s when I knew I really loved him!  It didn’t matter that those “riches” had faded away, I loved him anyway!

Fast forward to our 12th Year of Marriage

During our eleventh and twelfth years of marriage, my husband and I endured the hardest years we have ever had to face as a couple.  A nightmare situation became our biggest blessing. For a year and a half, we relied on our emergency fund and blessings from our family and church family instead of an income, so we could take care of my husband’s grandparents and then so my husband could find a new job.  It pushed us to trust God in many ways we never imagined, and brought us closer in many ways.

I finally confessed

During times of hardship, we can often become discouraged and second-guess what we believe God has called us to do.  We knew God had called us to take care of his grandparents…personally, I just thought it would be for a shorter period of time.

Anyway, it was during one of these moments when my husband was feeling discouraged, that I finally confessed to him the prayer I had prayed so long ago.  He couldn’t believed that I had actually rejoiced when the stock market crashed and his money was gone!  He wished I had prayed for something else, but I am so thankful for that prayer and told him he should be too.  Because not only did it show me my heart, it prepared me for times like this, when money would be scarce. It prepared me for when our love for God and each other–no matter the circumstances–would get us through the difficulties. Going through a valley like this actually made us stronger in our faith and determination to keep our marriage strong.

That’s not to say we didn’t have difficult moments in our marriage during this time…that’s for another post. But we knew for sure that being in a “poorer” stage of our marriage was not going to destroy us!

Tips for Holding on During Hard Times

Here are a few things I learned during that eighteen months:

1. Continue to keep God first and your husband second!

When times get tough, it’s easy to focus on what you are going through and feel like no one else understands.  But God is right there with you.  Do your best to keep God at the forefront of your life.  The Lord understands what you are going through more than you do.  He sees how these trials will build you up, even if you feel you are losing all your strength. The Lord will provide exactly what you need when you need it. It may not look like what you think you need but he will carry you through.

Your husband needs his helpmate now more than ever.  Do whatever needs to be done to keep the lines of communication open and be the helpmate God created you to be.  Even if it means reaching out and seeking help for your marriage. Do it! Being without a job or feeling like he is not providing for his family the way he should strikes at the core of a man.  Satan will twist this and will use it against your husband, if you don’t stand up for your husband and remind him that he is doing exactly what he needs to be doing.  (Now, I admit there were times I struggled with this, but that’s where my next point comes into play.)

2. Pray together whenever you can. Even when you don’t want to pray anymore, continue to pray.

We prayed about what to do…find a job or take care of grandparents.  Taking care of grandparents was the answer, so we were obedient to that.  Since we took it to God first and received the answer, we were able to hold on to that answer even when we were exhausted, it all seemed so overwhelming, and we were ready to move on. Obedience isn’t just for when things are easy but for when Satan is trying to destroy you too.

There were days we did not get to see each other because our schedules were so different.  I know many thought that because my husband didn’t have a job, we got to spend a lot of time together as a family. But the opposite was actually true.  We were both stretched thin and exhausted.  I felt like a single parent of four small children. He was up till all hours of the night caring for his grandmother.

3. Remember feelings really don’t matter, the truth does.

When we become tired, overwhelmed, and stressed, our feelings become heightened. Satan is ready and willing to make the case for us as to why our spouse is not making the grade.  Satan will push the line as far as you will let him, so don’t.  Don’t let your feelings overwhelm you.  Instead, remind yourself that both of you are going through this trial together.  You may express your emotions around it differently but in front of God and man, you made a covenant to hold on to each other “for richer or poorer.”

This is your time to take on the challenge wholeheartedly and with God by your side cheering you on every step of the way.

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4. Trials make us Richer

So in the end, God didn’t miraculously replenish our bank account, but he gave us something much more valuable. And he will do the same for you! He will give you spiritual blessings that you can’t even conceive.

There were many Scriptures I clung to during this time.  One of them was…

My ears had heard of you
but now my eyes have seen you.


– Job, talking to the Lord, Job 42:5

This verse was so powerful to me.  Here was Job, who was supposedly the most righteous man on Earth.  This is the man God pointed to and said, “Have you considered my servant Job?”  God knew of Job’s faithfulness.  But it was through an immense trial that Job’s eyes finally became open to God’s faithfulness and almightiness.  God held him close during his trial. One of the most fantastic things to come out of Job’s trial was that before he had only heard of the Lord, but now Job saw the Lord!

Prayer over you!

Lord, you are the giver of wonderful gifts. The gift of marriage is beautiful but challenging all the same. It’s been said that marriage isn’t supposed to make you happy but holy. When we are in the midst of deep struggles whether financially, emotionally, spiritually, or physically, we see that happiness can soon fade but holiness can be heightened.

For all those going through struggles right now, we hold them up to you.  Please give them the strength and the courage they need to be obedient to you throughout each step of their trial. Bring husbands and wives together and help them hold on to each other no matter what comes their way.  We praise you that Jesus has walked the difficulties of this life so that we have a Savior who can empathize with our trials and sufferings.  It is in Jesus’ name that we praise you and that we boldly say this prayer – Amen!

Have you been through financial hardships in your marriage?

What advice would you add?

 

 

 

Raising Children is not a Waste of Time

Raising Children is not a Waste of Time

Tracy Watts

Tracy Watts

Wife, mom, daughter, teacher, blogger, crafter, organizer - but most and best of all, I am a Christian. I am passionate about my family and my God. I am married to my best friend and am blessed with a one year old son who keeps me busy all the time staying at home with him. And I am glad to be in the service of our incredible and awesome God.
Tracy Watts

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Moses.

He was “very meek, more than all the people on the earth.” (Numbers 12:3) He spoke with God “face to face, clearly and not in riddles” and he saw the “form of the Lord.” (Numbers 12:7-8) And Moses was “mighty in his words and deeds.” (Acts 7:22) He climbed to the top of a thundering mountain to receive stone that God himself had written on.

And yet, he started off as a baby. Probably one that cried. And made dirty diapers. And drooled. What an incredible thing it must have been to be Jochebed. Because, after all, who takes care of babies? Their families–especially mothers.

Whose is the first voice to sing a song about Jehovah to a child wrapped and formed in the womb? Who is the first to point out the blue skies and the birds that sing? Whose voice is the first to speak sweetly and softly? Who is the first to teach the gentle, incredible, yet all encompassing and demanding love of Christ?

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Sometimes we have this mistaken idea that caring for babies is sub-par. That it is not a worthwhile endeavor or at least one that is beneath a driven or talented parent. Society tells us that choosing to make raising children our primary focus is a waste of time.

And yet, I ask you…

Growing up in Pharaoh’s palace, as the son of Pharaoh’s daughter, who taught Moses about the one true God? How did he learn about the God with true power?

Whose hands held him and quieted him for three months, hiding him from angry Egyptians? Whose deft fingers coated a basket with pitch to make it buoyant enough to float down a river in faith? Who spoke up bravely to royalty? Who brought home a newly royal baby and nursed him?

As a mother (or father or sibling–the list goes on) who cares for a little one, you may not have encouragement or reward. You may not earn fame or a promotion. Your salary may not have a cost of living raise.

But don’t think for a second that your time is wasted. You have the most important role that God could place in your hands–that of teaching another about the love of Christ. And there is nothing more eternally important than that.

What I wish we’d known before we were married

What I wish we’d known before we were married

Lori S

Lori S

I'm Lori! My husband and I have been married since 2008. We adopted our son in July and live in Memphis, TN. One of the things I love about Creating a Great Day is that it is focused on inspiring women to the woman that God wants them to be. Every woman is different, and we all have talents to honor God and walk alongside each other in this spiritual journey called life. Have a blessed day!
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My husband and I realized that we needed to focus more on our marriage after adopting our son.

One of the local benevolent organizations advertised for a marriage retreat, so we decided to go. The main focus of the first night was to have a date night with your spouse. However, one of the keynote couples delivered the first “message” of the weekend. They explained their shining moments and challenges as a couple. They instructed the crowd to create a vision and a mission for your marriage. In other words, where do you want your marriage to go, and how do you want to go about achieving it? They provided more information about what would be good to include in your marriage values (including goals and budgeting decisions).

We walked away a little confused but encouraged. It almost sounded like a business plan….but it made sense. Thousands of people prepare and plan to be successful at their jobs, but who has really set down to prepare how to be successful in your marriage? I’m not just talking about praying (even though this is important). I mean sitting down with your spouse for an extended period of time and discussing the current and future states of your marriage.

Sadly, we didn’t utilize the advice like we should have.

We got caught up in our schedules and the holidays. We finally sat down three months later to discuss it! Thankfully, we both remembered enough about the retreat that it helped start our discussion. We focused on what brought us together and what we currently liked about our marriage. I’m not sure what brought us to this passage, but we currently reference it as our “mission” for our marriage and family.

Romans 12: 9-13 “Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically. Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying. When God’s people are in need, be ready to help them. Always be eager to practice hospitality.”

Since this is what we believe our family should be about, it became much easier for us to create a vision for what we want from our marriage and our family.

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Marriage Advice I’d give my pre-married self

My husband and I have been married almost 9 years. There are so many things I wished we had known before we got married. This retreat (and information) would have been perfect for us to develop early in our marriage. If I was to give myself marriage advice prior to being married, this is what I would say:

1. Do not misjudge quantity time as quality time.

Sitting around each other does not “count.” Direct engagement with each other about your day, feelings, and goals is vital to the emotional intimacy of your marriage.

2. Do something for your marriage every year.

Attend a marriage seminar/workshop, study a book together, take a vacation. Focusing on the growth and your stability of your marriage requires time and effort. It’s not going to happen naturally.

3. When your marriage gets tough, don’t run….dig in.

This has been one of the most difficult things for me to embrace, but I know it’s what God wants me to do. I’m not supposed to handle my marriage problems on my own. They are not going to small, and I need my God (who is bigger and stronger than I am) to guide me in being the wife I need to be.

4. Surround yourself with marriage mentors.

I recommend people older than you who can speak truth into your lives and guide you on a Godly path through your “marriage valleys.” I’m not saying you shouldn’t talk to your best friend. What I’m saying is that wisdom typically comes from people who are older than you.

5. Pray together.

This is simple, but it’s not. And I’m so guilty of just assuming my husband should lead this…but your marriage and your relationship with God (as individuals and as a couple) is too important to put off. One or both spouses need to be actively focused on establishing prayer time together. You need to spend time together, before the throne of God, to help your spiritual connection grow with each other.

6. Disciple one another.

This realization came to me after I attended a women’s spiritual training workshop. I began thinking of all of the things I could do with the teens in our youth group. Then I realized that I, not once, thought of how I could lead/bless my husband. Not once. I realized that I cared more about the teens’ spiritual growth and formation than my husband’s. I realized that for my family to be successful (i.e. stay together, be Christ followers), I needed to focus on the spiritual development of my husband too. It’s not been easy doing this, but this realization has helped me understand that spiritual growth and formation is for everyone, not just our youngest generation.

I hope this advice has been helpful! I am thankful for the people in our life who speak truth, life, and encouragement into our marriage. We are excited to see how our vision and mission for our family grows (and maybe even evolves) in the years to come.

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Dedicated to the One in the Midst of Grief

Dedicated to the One in the Midst of Grief

Tracy Watts

Tracy Watts

Wife, mom, daughter, teacher, blogger, crafter, organizer - but most and best of all, I am a Christian. I am passionate about my family and my God. I am married to my best friend and am blessed with a one year old son who keeps me busy all the time staying at home with him. And I am glad to be in the service of our incredible and awesome God.
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My dear one,

I wish I could say or do something to make this all go away for you. I know that your heart is breaking–that it shattered into a thousand tiny pieces. And that right now, in the midst of grief, it seems that nothing makes sense anymore. I don’t have any words or tricks for you. I have no magic balm that can make things as they were before.

And grief is such a terrible, ugly monster.

It rears its ugly head at the strangest of times. It is crippling and stifling and healing all at once. Sometimes, grief grabs you at the grocery store when you think you catch a glimpse of your loved one walking past. Or sometimes, it creeps up on you in the darkness of the nighttime and steals away rest and sleep. Sometimes, it breaks you.

 

My dear one, know that I hurt with you.In the Midst of Grief

Not in the same way, but I hurt for the pain I see you are feeling. I know that you are grieving the past and the present, thinking bittersweetly of the memories you made. Of all you felt and did. But I know, too, that you grieve for the future that was lost. For all the times of “could have” and “would have.” Of all the special moments you will miss and experience without them.

I want you to know that prayers are lifted for you. Not just by me, but by many others. Some you would expect– and some not. I want you to know that all you have to do is ask. There are a dozen loving hands who will reach out and grasp your hand. Who will wash your dishes or bring you food. Who will sit with you and cry with you and remember with you.

And the God you question, the God to whom you cry out and rail at, the God you feel anger, grief, and confusion towards–that God is the only one who can put the pieces of your heart back together. Not in a short moment, but slowly, gradually. A process. As a potter who melts down his pot and painstakingly, carefully spins and shapes and reshapes.

Dear one, I love you. But more importantly, God loves you.

May you feel the comfort and the nearness of His presence in this moment and for all eternity.

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