The Prayers of A Mother

The Prayers of A Mother

It feels like the longer I am a mom, the more I learn that I have very few answers. I have a high schooler, a middle schooler, a toddler, and one coming in February.

Being someone who struggles with control and a mom has not always been the best combination. My prayers for my children have been very much about telling God what he should do, how he should do it, and when he should do it. The last seven years I have really worked on my control issues through the twelve steps in the Christ-centered recovery program called Celebrate Recovery. One of my dear friends summed up the first three steps for me as:

  1. I can’t.
  2. God can.
  3. I will let him.

As a person who lived a life in the illusion I had control, these were hard for me. After working on these steps, it became apparent that peace in this life requires a total surrender to God. And that includes me surrendering my children.

One day, a seasoned parent told me that when her daughter was going through a time of rebellion, she threw out all her prayers. Instead, she just began praying this scripture over her daughter while inserting her name. At first, I prayed this over my daughter as she struggled with processing a lot of hurt in her life. Then, I started praying it over all my girls daily:

When I think of all this, I fall to my knees and pray to the Father, the Creator of everything in heaven and on earth. I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower CHLOE, ALLIE, & EMILIA with inner strength through his Spirit. Then Christ will make his home in CHLOE, ALLIE, & EMILIA’S hearts as CHLOE, ALLIE, & EMILIA trust in him.

May CHLOE, ALLIE, & EMILIA’S roots grow down into God’s love and keep CHLOE, ALLIE, EMILIA strong. And may CHLOE, ALLIE, & EMILIA have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. May CHLOE, ALLIE, & EMILIA experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then CHLOE, ALLIE, & EMILIA will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.

Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within CHLOE, ALLIE, & EMILIA, to accomplish infinitely more than CHLOE, ALLIE, EMILIA might ask or think. Glory to him in the church and in Christ Jesus through all generations forever and ever! Amen. (Ephesians 3:14-21 NLT)

This verse just seems to have everything I could ever dream for them. The only other prayer I pray daily is:

Lord,
If Chloe, Allie, or Emilia are doing anything that would keep them from you, then please reveal it to me or someone who loves you and them.
In His name,
Amen

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I don’t know if these will only be my prayers for them, but they have been for the last two years. It is so freeing to know that God knows better than me. Any hurt in their lives is His to heal. One thing is for sure, God is a much better God than I could ever be!

How do you pray for your children?

Do you pray any scriptures over your children?

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How to Help Those Going Through Divorce

How to Help Those Going Through Divorce

Going through a divorce is never a “club” one aspires to be a part of, but it happens.

 

Oftentimes, friends and loved ones very much want to help and ease the pain, but are either at a loss for what to do, or they try to fix the brokenness. Having gone through a divorce twelve years ago and having the privilege of leading in the national support group DivorceCare for five years, I have heard and seen a lot! So, here are some practical do’s and don’ts of helping friends who are navigating the painful road of divorce.

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DO:

1. Freezer meals

As a single parent, working and having to think about making dinner and
just planning ahead is beyond difficult. Stocking your loved one’s freezer with already-prepped meals is especially helpful so that on the hard days there is a no-thought-required meal ready and waiting.

2. Gift cards

If you don’t like to cook then a gift card would be great too. Places like Boston Market so that they can stop and get something on the way home.

3. Fill the empty time

Take your friend out for coffee or lunch on the weekends they are without their children. Going from being a full-time parent to being alone for two days is very hard at first. All that extra time gives them a lot of time to think about the divorce and to worry about how this is going to affect the children. Your loved one now has time to fill their mind with “what-ifs” because the dream of what they saw for their life is over and they can’t see a new dream yet. They are in the deep stages of grief and will be there for a while.

4. Be their family at church.

If you see them at church sitting alone, ask them to sit with you.
Everyone in my DivorceCare class has a really hard time going to
church. It is beyond painful to see all the “happy” families and hear
all the analogies of families/marriage in sermons, etc. Even though
most people don’t notice, it’s easy to feel like everyone is looking at you and
wondering why you are alone.

5. Encourage them.

Text them and let them know you are thinking about them, praying for
them, and maybe send a verse about God being an ever-present being.

DON’T:

1. Don’t try to force them out of their feelings.

Did you know that if you are in an active healing process (counseling/group therapy) for every five years someone was married it generally takes a year for them to heal? So don’t rush them into feeling better.

2. Don’t encourage them to start a new relationship. This can delay healing and actually create more pain to heal from.

3. Don’t say, “I saw this coming” or bad-mouth their former spouse. Even if that is true, it compounds the hurt and emphasizes in their mind the failure they feel.

4. Don’t try to give advice unless you have been in the same situation. You can be a friend by listening and being there, but encourage them to seek counsel from someone who is further down the road, a professional, or a support group.

These are just a few things that I hear over and over from people who are going through this process. It is a marathon and not a sprint. Above all: be patient. The healing process is painful but possible and it helps so much to have loving people walk alongside you.

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If you have experienced divorce, what was encouraging to you?

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ROADWORTHY: How to Teach Teens to Drive

ROADWORTHY: How to Teach Teens to Drive

Faith Lessons and Driving Lessons

Want a lesson in trust, faith, and not worrying? Then put your teen in the driver’s seat and move over to the passenger seat for the first time! We began our journey for Chloe to become a licensed driver almost a year ago. Texas has some of the strictest driving requirements, but I’m happy to report that Chloe passed her driving test and is now a licensed driver!  It only took $350, 12 hours in the car with an instructor, 30 recorded driving hours with Mom, 20 classroom hours, and five trips to DPS (because the documentation needed in Texas is worse than getting a passport)!

Thanks to Timberdoodle, I was given the opportunity to review “ROADWORTHY: A Parent’s Guide to Teaching Teens to Drive.” This is a DVD course designed to teach parents and teens together about defensive driving. 

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Faith is letting a teenager behind the wheel!

Great Tool for Both Parents and Teens

First of all, ROADWORTHY is NOT a complete driver’s ed course.  Your teen will have additional requirements in order to get their license, depending on what state you live in.  However, this video series makes a great supplement for both parents and kids to watch together!  I absolutely LOVE the idea of a course for teaching parents HOW to teach their kids how to drive. Timberdoodle has brought an amazing course for parents! 

CLICK HERE TO VIEW THE COURSE!

When it came to teaching my daughter how to drive, I honestly didn’t know where to start other than an empty parking lot. After I watched the videos, I felt like I was armed with new information to help my daughter learn to drive. The instructor break downs the techniques into simple steps as well as explains why he suggest these techniques. One of the best things about this video course is each lesson is short! Most of the video lessons are under ten minutes long, but full of information in that time. Best of all it’s very affordable!

NOT Your Typical Driver’s Ed Course

I will be honest–I thought this was going to be like drivers’ ed all over again, but it was not! The instructor gives REAL LIFE scenarios and tips on how to help your child learn to be an independent driver without being a helicopter parent. After watching these tutorial videos, I felt much more confident in my ability to teach and ease my child into driving on her own. I would recommend them to ANYONE who will be driving with a teen who has a permit! I will definitely use this series when my almost fourteen year old begins learning to drive!

 

Timberdoodle has tons of great, fun learning tools for kids of all ages.  Check them out not only for your driving needs but many other things including this 10th Grade Curriculum Kit.

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Continued to be encouraged…

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Hearing God through Music

Hearing God through Music

I am a person who hears God loudest through music.

It always seems that no matter what is going on in my life, God always finds a way to speak to my hurting heart through the musical gift of others. This song has spoken to me so much over the last week, especially the words:

And when you’re tired of fighting
Chained by your control
There’s freedom in surrender
Lay it down and let it go

So many times I keep myself from peace by trying to control and hold onto things God never intended for me to fix or take responsibility for. This song really helps me to see those things in my life and brings me back to a state of surrender and peace.

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Below is the entire song lyrics & video:

“Just Be Held”

Hold it all together
Everybody needs you strong
But life hits you out of nowhere
And barely leaves you holding on

And when you’re tired of fighting
Chained by your control
There’s freedom in surrender
Lay it down and let it go

So when you’re on your knees and answers seem so far away
You’re not alone, stop holding on and just be held
Your worlds not falling apart, its falling into place
I’m on the throne, stop holding on and just be held
Just be held, just be held

If your eyes are on the storm

You’ll wonder if I love you still
But if your eyes are on the cross
You’ll know I always have and I always will

And not a tear is wasted
In time, you’ll understand
I’m painting beauty with the ashes
Your life is in My hands

Lift your hands, lift your eyes
In the storm is where you’ll find Me
And where you are, I’ll hold your heart
I’ll hold your heart
Come to Me, find your rest
In the arms of the God who wont let go.

How does God speak to your heart?

What song represents your life right now?

 

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Courageous Perseverance

Courageous Perseverance

As a new year approached, many were reflecting on the peaks and pits of the previous year and cultivating hopes, dreams, and goals for the year that lies ahead. In a previous post, I wrote about the seasons and landscapes that my faith walk has journeyed through. Some will have had an amazing year where their faith flourished and others will have struggled through the last year to keep their faith intact.

I think it can be very easy to confuse “religion” with our faith and feel let down by God when His people let us down. A few weeks ago our minister shared this verse in a sermon and I could feel the tears well up in my eyes.

Matthew 11:28-30 (The Message)

Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.

So, with the fresh beginning of a new year I hope this verse can encourage and ignite a spirit of continuing courageous perseverance for those who are feeling tired and weary. For without those years that test, our faith will not have the years of abundant growth.

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In what areas of your life do you need courageous perseverance?

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